GoFundMe - Asking for a friend.
9We know many of you are happy to help, where you can, just like we are. To that end, we want to create a singular place for all “help if you can” posts and links to GoFundMe listings. This should help everyone know where to find them and house current and future posts all in a single, easy-to-find location. Just search the forum for GoFundMe, and this should be one of the top results.
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This is moved from it’s original thread that I posted Saturday 11/8/25:
In the past we have helped some people/pets, this person needs more help than I can give her
There is a young adult who desperately needs more help than I have been able to give her so far or find for her. She was recently diagnosed with one of the aggressive non-hodgkin’s lymphomas (Burketts where she has had “B” symptoms for a while and should have been diagnosed much earlier than she was but her doctors kept testing for other things instead), and doesn’t have family here (her parents are dead and she is an only child). She has a 3 year old son, 5 year old cat, and has a job but can’t work as many hours due to cancer apts and now treatment starting.
She started a gofundme in October but is embarrassed that she had to create one to begin with and so isn’t posting it anywhere. I am taking that decision out of her hands and posting it myself locally on nextdoor and here (it’s at the end of this post) as she needs more help than I can afford to give her.)
I paid her back electric bill so it wasn’t cut off on the 4th but she is behind in her rent and about to be evicted, her current month’s electric bill is due 11/18, she is only using internet google voice as a phone and needs some cheap phone cards so she has phone service all the time, not just when she is somewhere that there is internet.
She is struggling with paying insurance premiums, meds, copays and with not working as many hours due to cancer apts is financially on the edge. That just adds to the stress of being diagnosed with cancer at a young age (20’s) and having to work while dealing with that, her child and everything else. While her employer is understanding, having reduced hours (has already used all her sick days) due to apts, etc. just adds to her financial and emotional distress.
Chemo for this is usually 18+ weeks and, speaking from experience with a blood cancer myself and having to work through it having no other choice and having a kid, it gets harder and harder to keep working as you feel worse and worse over time from chemo. I had to and so will she because she has no choice and has to work even if she is sick, as I did too (and again her employer is being understanding, she just can’t afford to take any more unpaid time off than she absolutely has to).
I’d hate to see her homeless, with pre-schooler and her pet cat she has had 5 years, being treated for cancer… You can also see on there how much weight she has lost due to cancer. The first photo is hers pre cancer (from her nextdoor profile), the second is now (from her gofund me ones where you can also see her weight loss, her face shot there was pre chemo - that weight loss was due to the cancer’s “B symptoms” that some get with non-hodgkin’s lymphomas).
If we could please help her and show her what a caring community we are that would be wonderful. And again, she needs far more help than she has asked for in her gofundme.
UPDATE: While they haven’t done so, someone on nextdoor said he’d pay her current electric bill due 11/18. She is 3 months behind in her rent counting this month and told she will be evicted if she doesn’t pay something. She owes $3300. Right now she is earning $600/mo due to cut hours so this is not sustainable (I am looking for alternatives for her, but catching up her rent will push eviction 3 months into the future and buy time). Chemo for her starts Thursday (I am going to her first chemo with her as she is terrified). Currently $1025 has been donated out of the $5000 she is asking for, including a donation by at least one person from meh who whispered me.
@Kyeh, @Lynnerizer, @sillyheathen, @Cerridwyn have all posted on the “old” thread that will be deleted. Sillyheathen said she would make the 3 year old a light box!!! (and posted photos of some she has made - they are stunning) and contribute some stuff so he has christmas presents and stuff from Santa.
https://www.gofundme.com/f/donate-to-defeat-aggressive-lymphoma
The photos are of her profile photo on nextdoor pre cancer and the second one is her with the huge amount of weight loss from the B symptoms (with her 5 year old cat.).
UPDATE:
She is caught up on her electric.
She will get a 3 day eviction notice if she doesn’t pay at least one month’s rent by the 15th. I told her in this state that is illegal and they have to take her to court first. Of course when they do that she will need to get caught up on all her rent. If one month can be paid now that, at least, buys more time to pay the rest (and ideally find a way cheaper option; her rent was in line with what she could afford when she was working full time, it is $1100/mo and she owes $3300)
She owes $180 on her water (as I talk with her she volunteers more things).
Thursday I am taking her to get SNAP, WIC and Medicaid (some of the money so far in the go fund me has been used to pay ACA health insurance premiums - that she is current with; getting medicaid and SNAP though will be a crap shoot as she only has 19 hours this week and in this state you need to work 20 hours a week to get them - I am hoping her most recent paycheck will be accepted without looking at the one prior to that as that one she met the half time criteria, the one before she didn’t). Her last two paychecks (biweekly) combined her net has been just over $500 due to reduced hours. Her last full paycheck was the end of August (took 2 months to diagnose her as they weren’t looking for what she has - that is why the massive weight loss. She should have started chemo several months ago except they didn’t know she had cancer - health care is terrible in this state).
She has to pay for child care so she can go to work, gas, food, health insurance (ACA care), etc. besides all the stuff she is behind on. She has been using the gofundme money to pay for all this stuff, including childcare first (I told her to pay that ahead so she doesn’t end up not being able to go to work or chemo due to no child care). I need to find out if this state pays for child care for people with SNAP who are working.
Ideally she’d move in with family except she there is none to move in with (as mentioned in the original post) and she is an only child. Her ex took off to Canada (he is Canadian although now has USA citizenship due to them getting married, took off right after he got citizenship - she had no clue that was why he married her, and there is no way to get child support out of him with him in Canada).
Monday I am going with her to her oncology appointment and then with her to her first chemo that Thursday (she is terrified; I have had follicular non-hodkin’s lymphoma,and two other cancers, so know the drill).
She does have an interview for a part time job that pays more than her current job although when they see how emaciated she is I am not so sure they will hire her (and when she tells them she will need work scheduled around chemo and doctor apts that will make it worse).
I had not planned to get this sucked in helping her, rather I was just planning to keep her power from being turned off because she had a 3 year old, but as the entire story came out piece by piece (and I confirmed things) I couldn’t just walk away and let her be homeless with a 3 year old and a cat just as she was starting chemo. Shelters that take kids/families are full, rent assistance programs aren’t giving out money (most rely mostly on government grants that have been shut off due to the shutdown), so far I haven’t been able to get churches to help as they are overwhelmed too - or have a policy not to pay rent (sigh), although I have 3 more to call that I was told about late yesterday… it’s real mess and unfortunately the sky doesn’t rain money.
A new update. A VERY VERY generous person on meh just caught her up on her rent and sent enough to catch her up on her water bill (and I will be sending that person the receipt from those payments).
She needs phone service so she doesn’t have to rely on finding internet to be able to hook into google voice to make calls. I have collected, local to me, enough cash money for 2 months of phone cards and a SIM so far. That cash came from 5 people I have helped locally on a regular basis bringing them food boxes, etc. in the apartment building I live in.
I am hoping we can get her a cushion to pay for child care and other live’s necessities. Obviously living where she is if she can’t earn more money isn’t sustainable but this at least now there is more time to try to figure out an affordable solution.
I volunteer at a food bank and today I put an bigger box that we usually pack, explained the situation to the people in charge, and they let me fill it up and gave her a dozen frozen chicken legs as well. So that should help with her food budget.
I am so grateful to people as I don’t have the resources to bail her.
Thursday I am taking her to apply for a number of government programs. This state did not expand medicaid and it turns out while her child can get it she will not be able to because she earns more than $394 a month. Of course if she only earned that she wouldn’t be able to pay her bills. Can we say this state tries to kill the adult poor? Sigh.
She can hang on to her ACA insurance through the end of the year but likely will not make enough to get it in 2026. Of course she will still be having chemo then. To get ACA care in this state her income has to be over $22,200 (not announced yet but this is the estimate) as she is a family of 2.
Does anyone know what happens if you put in the 2026 application an income that is enough to get ACA care but then fall short?
I will be taking her to talk with the Patient Financial Navigator at the system she will be using on Monday to find out what the deal is with the poverty program there and what she will have to pay to continue to get chemo starting in January.
Catholic charities can be very useful in these situations because they offer such a variety of assistance programs.
The catholic charity program does not proselytize about religion. It just assists.
@f00l Thanks for the suggestion. We’ve called the local one and due to the shutdown all their federal grants have been cut off and they have little to no help right now. Donations apparently only make up a small percent of what she needs. At least that is locally.