Sad news
16My wife, Elaine (SWMBO), passed away very suddenly on the 12th of November just 28 hours after her first symptoms of heart failure.
I’m mostly OK, but when the grief hits, it hits hard. Without knowledge of life after death, and eternal marriage, it would be unbearable.
https://websites.tukios.com/organizations/363/obituaries/elaine-gardner/
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OMG… so sorry to hear this. After 48 years of marriage I know the loss of my wife would be a major blow. Good luck going forward. Spend the time remembering all those good days together. But remember the sadness comes with the event. It’s perfectly normal and acceptable.
BTW beautiful obit!
Death Is Nothing At All. By Henry Scott-Holland
Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.
Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just round the corner.
All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!
Henry Scott-Holland. “Death Is Nothing At All.” Family Friend Poems, https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/death-is-nothing-at-all-by-henry-scott-holland
I am so sorry for your loss.
I can’t begin to imagine. My biggest fear is something happening to the kids or the Englishman. If I had all the words that would make it better, I would give them to you. So sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss.
So very sorry to hear this. I hope you’re hanging in there. I hope you are finding a way to process everything. I wish I knew what to say. Be good. Sorry.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. That was a very sweet obituary, she was clearly a truly lovely person.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. I know your pain all to well as I’ve been grieving the loss of my father (I know it’s not the same). This community has been wonderful to me. Please don’t be afraid to reach out or share a story if you want to talk about her. Everybody here has really let me vent, talk and helped me with my grief a lot.
@Star2236
We truly ARE a pretty special community, despite the name!
Although it does not seem sufficient, I am so very sorry.
May your memories of a wonderful life together help you through these difficult days.
/giphy ghost hug
You are greatly blessed to have her in your life and in your eternal life to come. Many never find someone that makes them whole. You are one of the lucky ones. God bless you both and I will continue to pray for your comfort. Amen.
Beautiful obituary, I’m very sorry for your loss.
I’m sorry.
I’m so sorry, @blaineg. She sounds like such a wonderful person, with her beautiful heart and “curly words”! That’s one of the loveliest obituaries I’ve ever read; I laughed through tears reading it.
Except for her love of Brussel sprouts she and I would have been fast friends.
So sorry for your loss!
I am sorry for your loss.
How incredibly hard! I wish you strength in the upcoming days, weeks and months.
The photo you posted of the two of you is incredible! You can see the love just radiate.